Best Way to Cope with Grief

Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross five stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) are very real.The loss of a loved one is one of the most difficult experience to have and I know from personal experience. My father died May 14, 2013 due to cancer and diabetes complications. Watching him suffer was an awful experience for me. I have never seen anyone endure that much pain. To make matters worse, I tried to save his life, but my efforts were useless. It is unfortunate to see your loved ones parish and working on moving forward from that situation can also be difficult. However, at some point in my life I have encountered each and every stage and overcoming each stage was a painful experience. Although, due to my unfortunate circumstances, I had an effective support system.Thanks to the support system I had with my family, school, after-school programs and community, I was able to overcome most obstacles during the grieving process. Having a solid support system is what can help with moving forward, especially those that are young. I believe having a distraction, someone to talk, or guidance from a peer can be helpful solution to dealing with grief.

Commonplace 2

“Last words are for fools who haven’t said enough”, were Karl Marx’s last words. Ironic isn’t it? Karl Marx, known for being a renowned 19th century philosopher, left the world with an interesting statement. As a philosopher, you would think Marx would leave the world with an uplifting or deep last thought. Well, Marx did in an uncanny way. I interpreted this statement as Marx leaving the world a reminder, that we shouldn’t wait until our end to express ourselves. Why wait until the final minute to do or say something extraordinary? I wonder why were Karl Marx’s infamous last words “Last words are for fools who haven’t said enough”. Is he calling the quiet ones foolish according to Marx? I have so many questions and I am very curious to explore possible theories or interpretations for why Marx left the world with this last statement. I feel like Marx could also be reminding society to leave your “mark” before time ends. Is it more memorable during life or leading up to death?

Dreams Deferred

Langston Hughes, one the most prolific poets of the twentieth century wrote the well known “Dreams Deferred” poem. “Dreams Deferred” written in 1951 represents dreams and the possibility of dissolving if put on hold. Through this free verse style poem, Hughes personifies a raisin to represent the dissolving dreams and through Hughes’s diction choice and use of phrases such as “fester like a sore” and “Or crust and sugar over” argue that point. The poem is built upon uncertainty, curiosity, and quest for knowledge through the free verse syntax/form. Using a raisin and associating raisins with dream deferral is creative to me, because I wouldn’t immediately think of dried food when it comes to uncertainty or the future. Reading the poem makes me think of alternative universes, due to the reference of possibilities, uncertainty, and future.