Guding Principles

Integrity, Compassion, Family, Responsibility, and Courage.  These were the motivational values that I ranked as my top five during the activity at the most recent Honor’s community meeting.  I really enjoyed the chance to sit, with twenty- five values spread out on the floor around me, take the time to read each one, and reflect on the significance that each holds in my life.  In the end, Integrity and Compassion were the most important. However, I recognize that I will encounter experiences that will change what I value the most.  Personal growth will be eagerly accepted. Although at times rooted in pain and hurt, transformation can also come from happiness and joy.  I believe that embracing sadness can help provide perspective and shape how people appreciate the future.  One quote that embodies this message is from Mary Oliver: “Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.”  Encounters with people in my life  have taught me that each person has a history, and has experienced things that are beyond his or her control.  I believe that the world is harsh enough;  it is not my place to make it worse.  Thus, compassion is one of the main values that guides my actions.

Before I collaborate with others, I need to recognize my tendency to approach group work as a pacifying contributor.  When I was younger, I loved to lead the way.  As time has passed, I’ve found that I now wait.  I try to read the group, and then volunteer my thoughts.  Especially in collaborative efforts, I try to encourage everyone to participate and am cognizant  of anything that I can do to make others more comfortable.  I believe that everyone should have a sense of responsibility.  If you say you are going to do something, it is important that you follow through. For me, power and recognition take a back seat to community, justice, and tolerance.  I try to live by a quote by Maya Angelo. It reads: I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

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    Kylie Musolf February 9, 2015

    Hi Lili!

    Your post is very insightful and the quotes you chose really resonate with me. I think the way you define compassion is actually really one of the most interesting aspects of your post.

    I shared the same Maya Angelou quote with Rachel and asked her to consider how feelings or emotional well-being played a role in her understanding of compassion. Since you’ve posted that quote, I can only imagine that you think that feelings also play an important role the definition of compassion, but you also suggest that Hippocratic value of “do no harm” is another important component as well. Furthermore, the way you link compassion and integrity as both having a sense of responsibility to others is really compelling.

    I am sincerely impressed at the way that your values are entangled, the way they inform and complement each other. You say, “When I was younger, I loved to lead the way. As time has passed, I’ve found that now I wait.” Can you talk me through your understanding of the distinction between leadership and compassion, or leadership and responsibility? I wonder where leadership ranked in your list. I also wonder if you could elaborate on the role family takes in your top 5 values.

    Thanks for posting!


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